Comments on: More self-harm annoyances

By: yesisi

yesisi — Fri, 09 Oct 2009 04:00:12 +0000

Omg. Ignorant…. People expressing about their self harm is nothing more than a expression of feeling, negavtive or positive. An expression is an expulsion. What has gotten me annoyed about these blogs is the haters. People are sharing there insides. Sharing their inside trying to help another that might hurt the same. To help them understand & feel connected. If you cant understand, don’t say anything! (Its pretty easy). These may be just letters and words, but they are real peoples feelings and real peoples lives. Love, and if you cant at least try and help.

By: experimental chimp

experimental chimp — Sat, 08 Mar 2008 01:37:29 +0000

exactscience: I understand what you mean, but then again, both drug abuse and self-harm are defined by cultural convention. You might not accidentally take a mind altering pill, but there’s a cultural gulf between (for example) prescribed benzo use and abuse of prescribe benzo’s. Much as there’s a gulf between someone piercing their own ears and someone cutting themselves.

Rob N: Lots of self-harm going on. Lots of substance abuse, too. Self-harm isn’t exactly chic, but it’s pretty common.

avoidancejunkie: Thanks.

By: avoidancejunkie

avoidancejunkie — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 17:46:53 +0000

I tend to agree with you, I’ve always seen self harm as an escape just like drugs and alcohol. I’ve often explained it that way to non self harmers.

By: Rob N.

Rob N. — Thu, 06 Mar 2008 16:28:11 +0000

I probably tend to have my head up my ass much of the time. I’m self-absorbed, but I wasn’t especially aware of the whole “self-harm” thing. I’d heard of it, but didn’t realize that it was the illness du jour. Substance abuse recovery was chic in the late 80s with quack clinics cropping up all over and everybody and their brother “in recovery”. Probably sort of the same thing, but different. ;^/

By: exactscience

exactscience — Thu, 06 Mar 2008 10:45:08 +0000

I have fallen into both the drug user and self harmer category and I think the thing that sets self harm apart is real life.

In real life you will never, never accidentally trip and fall and somehow manage to swallow a mind-altering pill, but you may trip and fall and cut yourself – everyone at some point has decked it and grazed their knee and it hurts. I have done some really terrible things when I have wanted to but still wince like a child when I have to take off the tape holding down the gauze.

I’m not being too articulate. I suppose what it is, is that although both are conscious choices to forget, numb your thoughts or what have you – the acts that constitute self harm can happen normally and when they do it isn’t really thought of as serendipity, it thought of as ouch.